“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.” Brené Brown
When I first saw and heard Brené Brown’s now famous Ted Talk with more than 42 million views on vulnerability, I felt chills up and down my spine. You know when you have those “aha” moments in your life? It is a feeling in your body, you know it is pivotal. Well, it was one such moment. Imposter syndrome, feelings of inferiority, of feeling small and invisible… I realized that it was not just me. It is widespread. In order to conquer vulnerability and show up, we have to acknowledge this. Only when we choose to be seen in all our glory, warts and all, can we start making deep connections with those around us. This then leads to a strong sense of love and belonging, because only then we feel worthy of it.
We need courage to be imperfect. We have to be willing to show our vulnerability and this resonates with others and allows them to step out of their own shadow as well.
This is why I decided to start blogging. I have sat by the sidelines too long. It is still not easy.
The usual Gremlins are screaming inside my head. Who do you think you are? You don’t really have anything original to say!! Nobody is going to read your stuff.. There are a gazillion blogs out there already.. And on and on and on it goes. I know my fear center is trying to protect me from the unseen enemies.
And I appreciate that. Rather than giving in, I recognize it’s time to pacify the voices, to let them know it’s okay. Give them some love. It used to be that I would let these fears overtake me and talk me out of doing things that I felt were just too big.
Over time, I have accepted that we go on in spite of our misgivings, we push the boundaries of our comfort zone, because beyond that is where true growth and learning happens.
So ultimately, no matter how it all turns out, I would rather have played and lost than not played at all.
What are your Gremlins keeping you from doing? Are you ready to face your deepest fears, gather up every ounce of courage inside you and take the leap?